03/31/2009: Taken from the Utah Domestic Violence Council
Ttaken directly from the Public Service announcement from the UDVC
Are you a Victim of Domestic Violence?
According to the Utah Domestic Violence Council UDVC, "Good communication is respectful and does not include yelling, blaming, threats, demands, name calling, or threatening suicide if your partner leaves. These are examples of verbal abuse.
"Trust is created by mutual concern, honest and open communication, and shared decision-making and goals. Trust is not isolating your partner from family and friends, or frequently accusing your partner of infidelity, This is emotional abuse.
"Respect is shown by gratitude, kindness, openness, consideration and listening. Respect does not include disregard of another’s views or ethnicity, or forcing your partner to do something she or he does not want to do. Respect is not shown by hitting, kicking, scratching or biting your partner. This is physical abuse.
"Patience is the willingness to wait for another, controlling one’s temper, and tolerating those who are different or have limited capabilities. Patience does not include verbal or physical harshness, demeaning or controlling behaviors, or using physical violence to punish or intimidate. This is physical abuse.
"Cooperation is working together as equals when making decisions, sharing household tasks and contributing to the welfare of the children in the home. Cooperation does not include inequality of responsibilities, blaming one another for relationship problems, or lying about or controlling money matters. This is economic abuse.
"Individuality is expressing yourself, having your own friends, interests and hobbies, being comfortable to voice your opinions without being criticized, and allowing your partner to do so as well. Individuality does not include threatening, coercing, or forcing your partner to comply with your sexual demands. This is sexual abuse."
The UDVC explains leadership as, "Being an example teaches respect, work ethic, and social appropriateness and is not saying negative things about your partner, using physical force to get what you want, or neglecting the needs of your dependents. This teaches children that abusive relationships are acceptable."
If you would like to talk with someone about Domestic Violence or would like more information please call 1-800-897-5465.
